19 Nov 2010

How to handle manipulation…..

I was pondering over the tricky matter of human relations and how in certain families / culture, manipulation is accepted as a norm.

One thing dawn on me….

When i need to transact with a manipulative spirit, i must have 2 very crucial weapons under my belt. Deep and uncompromising principles and tenacity.

I must not use ‘poison for poison’ ie i must be mindful not to become manipulative myself, no matter how much i can justify it. I have to set my face like flint, and not enter the door labelled ‘manipulate’.

In order not to be manipulated, i must have deeply rooted principles [life values] which stay uncompromised no matter what ‘tsunami’ may hit, or even when a threat of life is thrust upon me. My absolute ground must be stable.

Both of these will not be possible if i depend on the frailty of my mind, the ever-devious heart, wavering faith, ego masquerading as wisdom.  I am limited to the degree of my skin, condition of my heart, and the thought life i carry.

But that does not limit God and so I should not limit God who is infinitely omnipotent and omnipresent.

I must let God keep me undefiled, and allow for the knowledge of His deep love be the fuelling source for tenacity or steadfastness.

Very very essential when accusations come hard and fast to impute guilt to me………

I must stay above the ‘cesspool’…………:)

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  I can make another person smile.
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