As I get older in life, I begin to recognise that the very behaviours in the older generation that used to bother me, is showing up in me.
Particularly in the area of presumption.
The mind thinks that with the years of life experience, it is so ‘smart’ or ‘wise’. It mechanically starts to automatically map, project, sort and categorise, trivialise, dismiss, etc.
In short, because of years of conditioning [depending on environment, culture and vocation], the brain tends to reduce details to just the essential [dropping facts along the way] or project conclusions where the facts get all entangled and typically exaggerated.
‘Reducing to essential’ is classic – choosing to remember what I want to remember and filtering out details that are hard to remember / to handle. And that means what I remember is a far cry from the actual. What makes it even more dangerous is that I took a position based on what I want to remember.
Projection is also a common ‘disease’ where I start to analyse motives, inject my own interpretation and create my own version of the reality; upon that version, I pre-empt the next move….
Miscommunication, what is that?
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