At the cafe nearby…

I had parked myself at a cafe for 2 hours to get away from the heat and also to get away from the construction noise behind my apartment.

In the 2 hours, I had the opportunity to observe 5 couples who entered the cafe and left, all the while working of course.

The first couple – a man in his late 40s or early 50s, and his female friend [with her dog]. The man was talking about his frustration with his wife - her not so appealing habits and their disagreements. The lady friend tried to be understanding and added some ‘I would not do that’ comments. They were obviously having a good time.

Then, there was a man who was very at ease with his lady friend – they behave more like friends, totally ‘healthy’ – just completed jogging, talking with no strain, no agenda, and just being. They are a dating couple, no less.

Then, there was this guy who seemed to be still courting, very attentive and caring. He was trying to make her feel good.

There was another lady telling her male companion about the love problems of her friend. Not quite sure if this couple is dating.

The last couple was the most intriguing. His accent meant he could have been in the west for a period of time. I did not look at them at first but their conversation, though in whispers, got me curious. She seemed to be older. He got all emotional at one point, very troubled. His voice was not audible but I could figure out that he was very distressed. like someone who was in some kind of trouble – financial, divorce, family objections???

All this I share is not to gossip but rather to illustrate the fact that NLP, neuro-linguistic programming, is not some lofty method but something we do all the time, if only we are aware.

Also, may I take this opportunity to encourage you out there, that the best relationship is the one centered on friendship? There is minimal stress, both parties are just being and at ease, instead of trying to be someone else to impress, or trying to please the other party, being approved, etc.

So, 2 hours at the cafe with my laptop, I sipped my coffee, did what I set out to do and enjoyed a good short documentary on life and relationships as a bonus!