Uniqueness….

In this past two weeks [early June] in Bangalore, I had visited with / interacted with about 50 children from 6 months to late teens…

About 25 are part of a group of kids who are mostly from single parent or without parents – either due to early deaths or fathers who are incapacitated by alcohol…

The others are children of friends, ex colleagues, and acquaintances.

What fascinates me is that each one of them has such unique personality but yet exhibits similar methods to get their way. The collection of arsenals are the same world wide… whining, tantrum throwing, passive resistance, manipulation, wilful disobedience, and etc. It is quite clear some of these behaviours are within the DNA ie gotten at birth.

I find it hard to agree that children are born pure. Lying comes natural though seen as cute in some instances; jealously is evident when a new sibling arrives; exerting dominance is also a common behaviour in children.

Having said that, each child has a unique personality and I enjoy getting to know them as special creation of God.

I enjoy watching them, wondering what they are thinking and considering the possible reasons for the way they react to events / circumstances …

Speaking of children, I was in the train [MRT in Singapore] today, there were 2 teenagers [probably late teens] who were too snugly as far as the public is concerned. The boy was on the phone at some point and was overheard saying ‘You have not given me the game boy. i want the game boy. You bring to ….’

From the speech, one would think he has not grown up. The irony is that while he is still a child in his emotional growth – the ‘I want, I want’ state, he is in such intimacy with the gal.

Can he really be a boyfriend – if he even understands the role of a boyfriend – when he is still so juvenile in his ways?